Why Should We Not Live Only for Ourselves?

 "Living for oneself" has become a popular slogan among young people today.  However, this mindset can be seen as individualistic, even selfish. In the past, "living only for oneself" was almost impossible, as society and family imposed specific responsibilities and obligations on individuals.

For example, in a large family facing financial difficulties, parents often decided who could continue their education and who had to stay home to work and contribute financially.  Even in marriage, previous generations were heavily influenced by family arrangements and traditional rules.  This raises an important question: Do we truly have the freedom to live as we wish, or are we merely living for others?

Living for Oneself or for Others?

Living under the expectations of others may make a person feel restricted and lose their sense of purpose.  However, the modern tendency to live solely for oneself also has consequences.  Today, many marriages break down because individuals prioritize their personal desires over overcoming challenges together for the sake of their family and children.  Many young people are willing to leave home when their relationships are not approved by their parents, leading to an increasing number of single mothers and children growing up without proper parental guidance.  This, in turn, has significant psychological and developmental impacts on future generations.

So, should we live for ourselves or for others?  Perhaps there is no absolute answer to this question.  If we simply follow a path set by others, can we truly be happy?  But if we live selfishly, without regard for anyone else, what kind of society will we create?

The Middle Path

According to Buddhist philosophy, the ideal approach is to follow the Middle Path—not excessively prioritizing individual freedom but also not being entirely bound by societal expectations.  The key is to understand the meaning of life, make mindful choices, and act in ways that do not harm ourselve or others.

In conclusion, everyone has the right to seek happiness and live freely, but that freedom should not be detached from our responsibilities toward family and society.  A progressive society is one in which people can live for themselves while also caring for those around them.