Do You Know How To Overcome Fear?

In daily life, we have hundreds of thousands of things to fear, but in fact, we should not combine them all into one because not all fear is bad. In general, we can somewhat classify fear into two types: instinctive fear and psychological fear. Every day, newspapers and media publish a lot of negative news (such as an epidemic situation) that easily makes us anxious. That fear is instinctive. And other fears, such as fear of failure, fear of standing in front of a crowd, fear of losing honor, etc., are fears stemming from psychology. When starting a relationship, getting a job, or moving to a new place, it's often natural to feel a little anxious. Maybe you're afraid it's the wrong decision or you're afraid you'll fail in your new unknown environment. Sometimes, this fear becomes so strong that it paralyzes and prevents you from moving forward and consciously seeing what will happen. Instead of avoiding it, you should "look deep" into your own fear and learn to deal with it.

 “No matter what decision you make, there will always be someone who will say you were wrong. There is always an obstacle that can easily lead you to believe that the criticism is true.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

But if you are aware in every decision or choices, you listen and follow the voice of your heart and simply do your best, there is nothing worth calling a failure. We won't talk about "failures" in friendships, love affairs, work or life calculations, but rather the lessons that should be learned from these experiences. If your entrepreneurial venture doesn't work, use it as a lesson for future decisions. It's all just one step in the long journey ahead!

Usually, fear is known as a very general concept. If we examine that fear, we may discover that there are other fears hidden behind. These are exactly the ones you fear. For example, we may fear failure, but failure is often associated with other concepts such as self-esteem. Practice dialogue with yourself. Be rude or gentle, as long as you feel most comfortable. The truth is that the more you talk to them (fears), the more cliché they feel, and then there's no reason to be controlled.

Do not criticize yourself if you are always in a state of fear because everyone has their own weaknesses, and above all, fears arise for a reason. First of all, accepting their existence as an inevitable part of life will help you regain the initiative. Next, empathize and understand yourself better to find out where the fear comes from. These two steps will help you find a way to deal with your problems more thoroughly and effectively.

When the mind is dominated by fear, we often turn to negative thoughts. You should put hypothetical situations for yourself to better understand anxiety, such as what is the worst that will happen? Or what if the situation is not as bad as I thought? What are the resulting values ​​and meanings? If the value in return for yourself is great enough, why not rush forward to try, etc.? In that way, you will not get caught up in negative thoughts.

When you exaggerate, you fall into the trap of assuming the worst will happen. From there, you allow fear to lead thoughts out of control and turn them into more negative thoughts. The advice is to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and stay calm. Now, when you look back, you'll see well it wasn't as serious as I thought and there was a solution, right?

When you can't control your fear, it will make you always in a state of stress. This is a normal psychological problem, but if it lasts, it will turn into a disease. In addition, being under too much pressure can lead to depression or increase your risk of Alzheimer's disease. To overcome, you should work hard to exercise because movement not only helps the brain a lot, but also makes the mind busy but more comfortable. Besides, you will also find the energy to balance your life.

Mark Twain said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” Fear can hold us back from our dreams and ambitions. Therefore, letting yourself accept as many challenges and overcome as many fears is a way to build this habit. Courage comes with fear; otherwise, it wouldn't be called brave. After all, if we don't fuel fear, it won't exist.

Of course, I don't mean that you won't feel disappointed when things don't go your way. What I want to say is that you should not be tormented by the thought that you have failed. Think about it. Are you kind and generous to that person? Do you make decisions on the basis of trust at work? Then why blame yourself? Why should I assume I am at fault? If you can gradually remove such blame, the fear will also subside.

"Learn to get up when you fall"

~ Himalayan proverb

Have you ever been afraid that if you succeed, you will have more responsibility, and that burden will be heavier if you ultimately fail. I think this is one of the many types of expectations that are pervasive in modern society. There are people who are always seen as failures, and this is negative. Others are so pressured to succeed at all costs that they want to give up and run away. Children must surpass their parents, friends must surpass each other, and neighbors must compete for wealth. Many great talents have not been able to develop more, simply because they know that success always comes with such pressures. They are afraid that the higher they go, the more painful they will fall.

That is why we often talk about the Middle Way in Buddhist philosophy. When you keep your balance on your journey, don't deviate from the outside while keeping your chosen lane. You won't be hindered or slow down out of fear and will be able to really go far. You are not in a hurry to seek success or be afraid of it, but just accept things slowly, and gently make decisions with a clear, pure mind. You are no longer afraid of failure because this will become a valuable lesson, a memorable moment in the ups and downs of life.

Let's move forward together in life with a relaxed, alert, open mind, without a forced cliché. In that way, we will get rid of the meaningless things and directly feel the value of life. Try following this guide naturally. I am sure good changes will come to you and your loved ones.

The most effective way to understand and face our fears is to return to love and compassion. As our compassion is cultivated, the ego itself shrinks and the fear dissipates. To do this, we need a lot of time because the ego is strong and resilient. First, you must learn to accept yourself, then you will learn to accept others. Let love spread, first to your family members and gradually to everyone without distinction. There is nothing stronger than love! It is the greatest source of power in this world, and it will bring you fearlessness and freedom.

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