A Key of Joy

A popular columnist, Sydney Harries, and a friend stopped to buy a newspaper at a newsstand.  After the friend finished paying, he was very polite and said, "Thank you", but the newsstand owner, on the contrary showed a poker face and did not open his mouth. They left the newsstand and continued going forward. Sydney Harries said to his friend, "The owner's attitude was bizarre too, right?” His friend replied: "Every evening he was like that." Sydney Harries again asked: "So, why did you show kindness to him?” The friend replied: "Why did I let him decide my behavior?" In the heart of every human being exists one “key of joy", but we usually do not know how to maintain that key and deliver it to others instead. One woman complained constantly: "My Life is very sad, because my husband is often away from home!". She brought her joy key and put it into the hands of her husband. Another mother said, "My son is not obedient and makes me angry often!" She handed the keys of her joy into her son's hand. A middle-aged man work at company site: "The Company does not promote me and causes my spirit to decline!” He again brought the key of fun of his life and placed it into his boss's hand. Another lady lamented, "My daughter-in-law does not respect me and inflicts pain to me. My life is wrenching!” A young man stepped out from a bookstore and exclaimed, "The service attitude of the owner was terrible, and the young man really hated it!” All these people have made a similar decision – they let others overpower their feelings.

The lesson: When we allow others to control and conquer our spirit, we feel like we are the victim and that the current situation has no other alternative but to blame, show hatred and anger. This attitude becomes the only choice for us. We take great responsibility entrusted to those around us and ask them to make us happy. We seem to admit that we have the inability to get our autonomy and can only ask someone else to arrange and govern our lives. Those people will make others not want to make contact or be intimate because we only hear blame and anger from them. However, those who know how to grip the key of joy shall not wait for others to make them happy, but .they instead are capable of bringing joy to others. Mentally stable people are aware of their own responsibility and do not blame others, have mastered their emotions, and know how to create and maintain their own pleasure. Such a joyful feeling will be in life and at work everyday without feeling pressure from others. Where is your key of joy? Is it in your hands or in the hands of other people? Hurry up and get it back.
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