Live Without Causing Suffering to Others

Everyone fears suffering.  Therefore, strive to live in a way that does not bring suffering to others.  This simple principle reflects the essence of Buddhist teachings and a life of deep understanding.

If we live without causing pain to others, then, should there be a next life, the place we return to will surely be better.  On the contrary, if we live recklessly, following only personal desires without regard for moral values, we are no better than animals—living instinctually, ignoring the ethical standards of Buddhism.

The Dual Meaning of "LIKE"

The word "LIKE" in this context carries two distinct meanings:

1.    Living "like" what one desires: Following instincts, with no self-control or discernment of right and wrong.

2.    Seeing the world "as it is": Understanding reality, accepting truth, and living in harmony with cause and effect.

When we perceive life as it truly is, we stop chasing after what we "like," as our preferences are often shaped by greed and ignorance.

The Importance of Understanding the Dharma

In a dharma talk, Venerable Toại Khanh emphasized the importance of understanding Buddhist teachings with clarity.  He used a vivid metaphor: to allow water to penetrate the waxy surface of taro leaves, the leaves must first be bruised.  Similarly, we sometimes need to face uncomfortable truths to awaken our understanding.

Humans, unlike animals, have the capacity to discern right from wrong through their senses and intellect.  However, many choose to live driven by instinct, as it feels easier and more comfortable.

Living with Assumptions

What if there is a next life?  What if realms beyond human existence do exist?  A wise person lives with these possibilities in mind.  Scientific progress relies on hypotheses, experimentation, and the willingness to accept failure.  Conversely, a world devoid of hypothetical thinking is a stagnant, unenlightened one.

Four Ways to Approach Suffering:

1.    Escaping suffering: Avoiding what we dislike and chasing what we desire.

2.    Doing good to seek rewards: Engaging in virtuous acts, keeping moral precepts, and serving others to accumulate merit.

3.    Practicing meditation: Using focus and mindfulness to transcend life’s sorrows.

4.    Understanding the root of suffering: Recognizing the origins of pain and breaking free from the cycle of meaningless existence.

Preparing for death:

The venerable monk reminded us that life is ultimately a preparation for death.  To face this reality, we must confront three great fears:

1.    The fear of painful illness.

2.    The fear of frailty in old age.

3.    The fear of death coming with panic and regret.

When we depart this life, we cannot take possessions or relationships with us.  Only our "spiritual capital" will shape how we perceive and transition from this world.

Living Mindfully:

Let us live with mindfulness and nurture authentic values.  By doing so, when death arrives, we can leave this life in peace.

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This translation preserves the essence of Venerable Toại Khanh’s teachings while organizing the message for clarity and coherence. You can go to his web address sutoaikhanh.com to learn more of his teaching in his own way.