Our journey to happiness can be likened to a
trip on a horizontal axis with countless destinations. Starting at point A and
heading towards point B, where we may wish to obtain a Master's degree.
However, when we reach B, we feel it does not bring true happiness, so we
continue to seek C, thinking that marrying the person we love is true
happiness. But soon, we realize that there are still a few more conditions
missing to feel complete joy, and having a beautiful child is truly a happy
family, so we hope for D.
We continue to be insecure, setting new
conditions, such as owning a big house, a new car, a bank account with a huge
balance, or a position of power respected by friends... to ensure long-term
happiness. And so, we keep rushing, from point E to F, then G..., but at each
destination, the feeling of happiness only comes briefly. A few weeks, a few
months later, we crave new conditions of happiness. Sometimes, we even wonder
if true happiness lies at the end of this horizontal axis.
The end of the horizontal axis is the end
of life. Who dares to say that only at the end of life can we touch true
happiness? But if that is true, then isn't our whole life wasted when we
constantly strive and sacrifice to enjoy happiness for only a short moment?
In fact, happiness is present at every
point A, B, C, D to X, Y, Z. The value of happiness everywhere, at every time
is essentially the same, meaning A=B=C…=Z. But how do we know this when we are
always driven by the motive of "giving up the form to catch the shadow"
- an inherent habit of humans?
Because we are stuck in unfulfilled dreams,
we cannot enjoy the great happiness right in front of us. Are we sure that when
we achieve those dreams, we will be completely happy? We are just guessing,
because a year or two ago, we also had dreams, and most of those dreams have
come true, but why are we still not happy? Yet we continue to dream, continue
to hope as if we have never known anything about happiness.
If we do not know what makes us happy now,
how can we know what will make us happy in the future? So, do we need to dream
more or should we go back to accepting what we have and being satisfied with it? Only when we realize the value of happiness
that we already have, will we know how to appreciate and preserve it. Only when
we hold true happiness in our hands, can we make others happy in a sustainable
way.
Try to write down the conditions of
happiness that we possess, and you will see that a piece of paper is not
enough, because the more we look back, the more we discover hundreds, thousands
of precious things that we have long forgotten. Happiness that is present but
not felt will become a neutral emotion, a state that normalizes emotional
qualities when lacking deep awareness. We often call it "equanimity."
It is this saturated emotion that makes us
quickly bored with what we have, lose faith in things that brought happiness in
the past. We continue to trample on current happiness to find happiness in
faraway places. Although forgotten, the ability to bring happiness is still
there, we just need to return to contact and to nurture it, it will flare up
again in our souls.
Thanks to mindfulness, we can recover
forgotten feelings of happiness, and when we realize that the conditions for
true happiness are numerous and close, we will understand that "Oh my God,
I am the happiest person in the world!"
However, how many of us have uttered that
sentence? Most people only realize they are happy after a dangerous situation,
a near-death accident, or a separation that seems like they will never meet
again. If there were no such events,
they would still tirelessly roam in search of happiness like a wild horse
galloping towards the distant horizon.
When tired, the wild horse stopped on the
green grass and beside the cool stream, suddenly feeling peaceful and warm. He
suddenly realized that happiness is right here; why did he foolishly trample on
it every day to search for it in a distant prospect?
But will the wild horse stop its journey to
live deeply in the present, or will it continue to rush into the future to seek
happiness after it has recovered? Being aware that happiness is only in the
present moment and stopping chasing after illusions is an important step, but
to maintain that awareness and not be drawn into the temptations ahead is not
easy. There must be the ability and specific methods of nurturing, because
willpower alone is not enough.
Not everyone has never known happiness
until the end of their life. Maybe they have lived in happiness, but they
cannot keep it for long. Because they are not capable of receiving happiness
deeply, easily turning everything into a normal thing even if it is the
greatest happiness. People often call it a joke of fate.
So don't let happiness be forgotten!
Dharma talk by monk Minh Niem
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